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Self-love is more than just self-care. ⠀ When we think of a ‘caregiver’ for a child, that person is not just playing with the child or nurturing the child, they have high expectations of them so they can be their best self & fulfill their potential. They make the child do things that the child doesn’t want to do but are good for them.⠀ ⠀ But, as parenting went from tough, high- expectations/low support, authoritarian parenting, to the opposite – indulgent, low-expectations/high support, permissive parenting, so has our idea of self-love.⠀ ⠀ & it’s a fact: low expectations-high support parenting creates self-absorbed, emotionally fragile, confused adults who are not anchored in values.⠀ ⠀ So when I say ‘Love yourself’ to myself or to you, I am saying it with high expectations & high support. I will love you unconditionally & I expect that you will stay connected to your higher self, care for yourself, set goals, & heal yourself, & I will be right by your side giving you everything I can for you to live your best life.⠀ ⠀ During the week I will be writing in depth about these 5 suggestions, because I believe they warrant their own space. But here is a brief insight:⠀ ⠀ 1) Start talking to yourself more & be as curious as you would be when you meet a new friend or partner. You can’t really love yourself unless you know yourself.⠀ ⠀ 2) Clean your room- Its annoying work, but yes, loving yourself involves doing annoying, hard, and boring work.⠀ ⠀ 3) Invest in your tribe- Loving yourself means you love other people. Because you will never be happy unless you have people in your life that you feel close & attached (we know this from the Harvard grant study).⠀ ⠀ 4) Forgive someone that hurt you (see the post before).⠀ ⠀ 5) Break the addiction—whether it’s a toxic person, drama, food, alcohol, work – kick compulsion & take your power back. You will suffer lots as you go through withdrawals, you may even feel your heart breaking as you leave a toxic partner. Self-love can look like that. Suffering. Heart-ache. Loneliness. But, do all this with acceptance and understanding for yourself.⠀ ⠀ Remember- High expectations – High Support via @drsalihaafridi

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People really need to reframe forgiveness in their minds. Most people see it as something they are ‘doing’ for someone or ‘giving’ to someone who probably hurt them deeply.⠀ ⠀ Not sure about others, but I often don’t feel I am ready to ‘do’ or ‘give’ something to someone who has hurt me… at least not at first.⠀ ⠀ Instead, rephrase. When you forgive someone:⠀ ⠀ – You are saying 'I take my power back'.⠀ ⠀ – You are saying ‘All this energy I was using to hold on to the anger and the hurt, I take back’.⠀ ⠀ – You are saying ‘I let go. All this anger that is burning up parts of me, I let go..’⠀ ⠀ – You are saying ‘I need this energy to love and heal myself *more than I need it to hold the anger and resentment I have for you’.⠀ ⠀ – You are saying ‘I choose me. I care for me. I will be there for me. And I let go of all the negative energy because it doesn’t serve me’.⠀ ⠀ FYI: You will not immediately feel better – this is the first step to healing. But I assure you, you will not heal, until and unless you take your power back.⠀ ⠀ Also, remember, you are not doing this out of anger. You are saying and doing all this with love in your heart. Love for yourself. Don’t jump to having good feelings for the other person… Just be there for yourself, validate yourself, and love yourself… the rest will follow.⠀ ⠀ #YourMindMatters #DrSalihaAfridi #iforgiveyou #powerful #letgoandlive #mentalhealth #dubai

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