Self-awareness is not just all about self-love and positive feelings. During the process, many fears or negative thoughts may surface from you looking inwards. You may encounter criticism, shame, guilt, unraveling of this persona that you have constructed, and maybe even a deconstruction of the life that you have created. This happens because the more you become true to yourself, you start to notice that many ideas, principles, even people no more serve you. Once you see the truth, you cannot unsee it. So, the next time you’re in the shower, experience the water on your skin, smell the shampoo, and remind yourself to stay in the present.
Tag: mental health
Do you know someone who is going through something but cannot themselves see it? Or refuses to ask for help? How do you get them to open up to you and how can you be there for them? The answer is not easy, it requires some level of introspection, but once you have recognized your own potential and willingness to help- you can make a huge difference to them any maybe even safe a life.
March 31, 2021
A child with speech & language disorder is put at a disadvantage when it comes to learning. Speech & language disorder does not only manifest through inability to enunciate words properly or stuttering. It can appear in subtle ways but its effects on the development of the child are still drastic. The holistic approach in education means that children are active participants in learning, with teachers serving as guides. But when a child is unable to properly process information or when they have difficulty expressing what they are feeling and thinking, it could lead to problems.
What is Speech-Language Disorder?
Speech & language disorder refers to the impairment of speech or the production of sound, voice, fluency, or language. This type of disorder has significant effects on a child’s educational performance as well as their social and emotional development. A diagnosis of speech and language disorder will mean a child with a stutter or experience difficulty when it comes to articulating words and phrases. Children may also have a voice disorder or lisp. Children with hearing loss also experience difficulties with speech.
How Speech-Language Disorder Affects Learning?
When a child is diagnosed with a speech-language disorder, particularly receptive language disorder, they will have problems in understanding and processing what is being said to them. When information is presented in such a manner with the expectation that the child has to remember the information, it can be very difficult for the child to understand what was said, let alone recalling the information by memory.
Their inability to understand and recall verbal instructions or information correctly can severely impact their ability to complete tasks as expected. A child with this disorder will most likely have difficulty following the instructions of the teachers, especially when those instructions are given verbally or contain a lot of words or steps.
In addition, a child already experiencing difficulty with speech or language skills are also prone to having difficulty in learning how to read and spell. Research has stated that in order to develop reading skills well, it is vital that verbal skills are already well-developed. Children faced with difficulties when it comes to verbal production need to learn how to associate sounds with letters. They then have to segment each of those apart to learn how to read and spell. Children who are faced with speech-language disorder will find this skill especially difficult.
How to Help Children with Speech-Language Disorder?
The first step in helping children with speech-language disorders is proper diagnosis. When the problem is determined, then appropriate intervention by a qualified speech-language therapist can be created. They can also recommend virtual speech therapy activities for remote patients.
For children to remember what was said to them, the information should be broken down into smaller chunks and then repeated as needed until the child can fully understand the information. Giving them a written form of the information can also be helpful.
Children with speech-language disorder can be perceived to be less intelligent as they are unable to process information as well as their peers. But if the information is presented differently or repeated, the child has a better chance of performing as well as other students. Also, when the child is seen as ignoring what was said or perceived to be defiant because they are not following verbal instructions will receive undue punishment which can demoralize their spirit. This will lead to them being discouraged with learning and schoolwork.
To help them with reading and spelling, it is important for instructions to be repeated and to have enough time for practice. This can be done both at home and in school by teachers, parents, and caregivers. Therapists can also help by providing helpful exercises and activities.
Psychologists say that our brain and nervous system are coded to focus more on negative experiences and emotions. However, simple practices that might help us create balance do exist. One of which, and my personal go-to, is a Positive Moments Journal.
We faced many mental health challenges in 2020 and our mental health was all over the place. But what we must acknowledge is that the human race really came out stronger and wiser and finally focused on what really matters, for ourselves, the people we love and the generation ahead of us.
January 9, 2021
Importance of self-talk
Ever caught yourself talking to the walls about something that was bothering you? Or maybe playing back a scenario in your mind where you could have done things differently? I have always found myself doing this and wonder why I almost subconsciously choose to replay things in my mind and try to potentially change the circumstance in my imagination at the very least. This is where I realised that self-talk allows us to narrow down the clutter in our mind and sometimes even reduce our anxiety before certain social situations but the kind of self-talk we have with ourselves is what needs attention. Research shows that positive self-talk makes us feel a little more prepared, calm and secure as the mind has recognized the importance of this matter. However negative self-talk, the one almost everyone ends up having without noticing, is the one that really affects us detrimentally.
You’re getting ready for an interview or a big presentation in front of a bunch of strangers and all you can think of is how it could go wrong and leave you feeling embarrassed. After a moment or two, you walk up in front of the mirror and tell yourself ‘you can do this’ and that even if it doesn’t go as you expect, ‘you’ll be proud of yourself for showing up for it with courage and hope’. That right there is the kind of self-talk that holds the power to calm your nerves and accept the possibility of any outcome. It has the ability to shape how you confront challenges, curve-balls and even dead-ends.
We indulge whole-heartedly in so much content on the daily and this content is what has the ability to create a framework of our internal dialog. Whether that’s podcasts, movies or TikTok’s, choose your niche carefully; it’s set to mark its territory in your mind.
I think therefore I am
Socrates famous quote ‘I think therefore I am’ really reminds me that I am and technically can become anything based on what I think I can be. Tony Robbins once said
“The only thing that’s keeping you from getting what you want is the story you keep telling yourself.”
Our life is a reality we create based on the numerous stories we tell ourselves. Some of these stories become the foundation of our belief system which then give rise to different beliefs that either empower us, limit us or estrange us. Self-talk is that first step to building our beliefs, most of the things we choose not to do or think we can’t do are caused by those beliefs.
We come across certain instances in life where we must make a decision that resonates with the whole of us. A lot of these decisions sometimes creates an internal conflict between what you think you want versus what aligns with your values. The stories we tell ourselves are so rigid because they usually align with those values and fit with us ecologically. This is why self-talk allows us to truly break down what we would like and whether it intrinsically works with us. Positive self-talk allows us to create better belief systems which form our most deep-rooted values. For instance, we might say certain negative things to ourselves which we don’t really mean, like ‘I am obese’ ‘I am ugly’, but unknowingly it may strengthen a limiting belief which could be harmful in the long run. Even when you may be feeling at your best, this little inner critic will throwback phrases you consistently fed it. So whether they are true or false, they are getting registered within you. Choose positive self-talk always.
Top 3 beliefs to let go of now
Not good enough
This is by far the most used negative self-affirmation phrase. I am not good enough in/at xyz. We all face self-doubt but consistently reminding yourself to stay in the loop of ‘not good enough’ is going to refrain you from taking an active position in your life. A good way to tackle this is by questioning this belief. At what point do you think you will be good enough? What must you achieve or feel in order to do so? And who must you receive this validation from? Once you question yourself enough, you might end up with this answer. ‘Only when you finally accept that you already are’
Shouldn’t have done that
Admit it. We are all guilty of playing back scenarios from the past and imagining how we could have done it differently. And that’s fine, as long as we don’t beat ourselves over what has past. Understanding our timeline and how time is a construct allows us to realise that at that time, place, emotional and mental state, we did what we thought was best. We could always do things differently in retrospect but does that even matter? Different doesn’t equate to better. The grass always looks greener on the other side but what we don’t see is that shadows always tend to change their place. Live in the now.
I was too much …
Sometimes when we feel overwhelmed or triggered by certain emotions or situations we act in ways that are completely out of our known character. And that’s alright because you know what, we’re human. To consistently judge our reactions and behaviours is heavily draining. We are not a machine with settings that are controlled by a framework made by humans. Elements like emotions, change, love, sickness, death, loss, opportunity and so much more that could never be deciphered into code and that’s what makes humans, humans. Humans are a framework that no one understands completely so really, judging ourselves for the way we react to every little thing is us being too hard on ourselves. Yes, we tend to be harder on ourselves than even life itself.
An expat in Dubai who loves engaging with diverse people and having honest conversations about life, through her blog- Egoiste Life. As a passionate artist, Manahil spends most of her weekends writing about the world, reading poetry and creating adventurous memories with the people she loves.
The world is full of judgment but the cruelest of them all is the judgment we place on ourselves that cause our insecurities. Whether its social anxiety, self-doubt or even imposter syndrome, in a nutshell it’s our insecurities trying to make their existence be known.
They say the first step to getting help is to speak to your loved ones/family. But how many actually act on that first step? More often than not, getting that conversation going with your guardians is more difficult than getting the help required afterwards.